Love words

Love words

Words are risky because often what we say and what we mean are two different things.  Some people are often coerced into sex even if they may not feel ready to do it. Someone people may say that they love you and if you love them you will have sex with them. This places pressure on you because you may be fearful that if you were to say no lets wait a while you may loose the relationship. But often even when you say yes, this may also result in the relationship coming to an end. Scutinize the true meaning of love - because if they love you they will wait for you. And when you decide to have sex use condoms or test together before taking your relationship to the next level.

For most people the word faithful means to have only one sexual partner - net een - just one.
But there are some people out there who say they are faithful but have an undercover lover. To them they are faithful as long as their main partner does not find out about their other lover - the makwapheni, nyatsi or the skelmpie. People may be unfaithful for many reasons. Some people may feel insecure within their existing relationships, feel that they are no longer being valued by their partners and look to someone else who appreciates. Some people may have sex with someone else because they are not being sexually satisfied within their existing relationship or because their partner may be living and working in a different town or city to them.

Scrutinize your relationship and try having open discussions with your partner about the status of your relationship and sex. We can't say it loud enough scrutinize the numbers game cause an undercover lover can bring you HIV from another. If you have sex with someone else and have not used a condom show that you care for your partner by using condoms or hold off for six weeks and test together for HIV just to make sure.

Do you love and trust them enough not to use a condom?
At the beginning of a relationship people are more likely to use condoms but over time they may use condoms sometimes or not at all - and they won't necessarily test for HIV before they make this decision. Some people may ask their partner to have sex with them without a condom to show that they love them. If the person says no then they ask whether they TRUST them or not. This places pressure on the person to have sex without a condom out of fear of being lonely, or out of fear of losing the gifts and favours that they receive from their lover. In all these instances people are at an increased risk of HIV infection (See Undercover HIV).

Spruce up your sex life by learning how to use condoms properly (see condom wise), try out different types of condoms. If someone asks whether you TRUST them then ask them to TRUST you and scrutinize by testing together for HIV together. Hey this is your life and really the only person you can really trust is yourself.

So Be wise - scrutinize the TRUE meaning of words.

About Scrutinize

Scrutinize is a public health campaign which encourages the Youth to "scrutinize" or understand their risk of HIV infection in relation to multiple concurrent partners, correct and consistent condom use, transactional sex (sex for money), intergenerational sex (sugar daddies) and alcohol use.

Scrutinize is a national campaign being undertaken by the JHU Program in South Africa and funded by USAID/PEPFAR.